Thoughts for women

One of the areas we helpaholics get caught up in is FAMILY.  Invariably there are one, maybe two people in any given family that seem to have an uber sense of responsibility toward the family as a whole and whether they stay connected, get along, etc. Which brings me to our next step: Step 4:  […]

It’s the end of July and we’ve had so many days of 100°+ weather that we’re all about to wilt!  Until today, which started off dark and still and then it actually rained!!!  Which cooled things off, but reminded me of how dark this next step is…. Step 5:  Remember that Help is the Happy […]

I took a little time to write this in my mind before setting words down because it is such a personal journey for me to face these dark parts of myself!  Yet I find that by owning them out loud, so to speak, and writing about them, it really helps me clear my path toward […]

I realized after writing the first 6 steps of my 12 Step Program for Recovering Helpaholics that it is sort of divided into two parts.  The beginning steps (1-6) are about facing ourselves.  The next group (7-12) are about healing ourselves. These steps come from my years of doing coaching (45!) and my journey of […]

This is about living in the unknown.  For as long as I’ve been coaching people I have had to field their questions about what will happen next.  We can make up stories about what we think will happen.  What we want to happen.  What we hope will happen.  But we cannot possibly know. Which leads us to: […]

When I write these, I realize that I am speaking about things that I have learned from others — my experiences wouldn’t mean much if I only had them by myself!  This is why my next Step is so important: Step 9:  Find a group and learn from them One of the reasons I started […]

Feeling alone is a common human condition.  Add feeling misunderstood and the problem multiplies. I became a helpaholic to gain a sense of belonging, however misguided that notion was!  The more I did for people, the more I felt I was a part of things.  What it set up was a pattern of me giving […]

After struggling through Step 10 and facing that I have had a major difficulty in learning how to receive with grace, it makes perfect sense that the next step is: Step 11:  Learn to do things differently so you only do what you love Learning to be open and receptive is first on my list!  So, […]